What do you do when you lose motivation? 

Trust me I am no expert on this subject but it is something I’ve been struggling with lately. I’m not a lazy person. When I get myself going I don’t stop. The other day I decided to quickly tidy up and do some laundry. Eight hours later I had decluttered, cleaned and reorganised my all my kitchen cupboards. 

Some days though the depression and fatigue feels like it consumes me. My mind knows that all it takes is making one small step. Just try five minutes walking, five minutes of yoga, one load of laundry… The options are endless and usually that first step is all I need to get going for the rest of the day. If I can make that first step. 

I’m certain there are people who can relate to those days where you know you should get out of bed, get outside, just do something but you just can’t bring yourself to do it. The temptation to curl up in bed or on the sofa is much more appealing and neither your mind or body are willing to do otherwise. Sometimes it helps. Sometimes it’s your body’s way of telling you that actually, you need a time out and you need to rest. Other times though it’s counterproductive. Personally I can feel worse the longer I stay inactive both mentally and physically. Yet despite knowing this I still do it. 

So now I try to bargain with myself. I will allow myself this day of nothingness but I plan one activity for the next morning. Either mindfulness (my go to one as I can even stay in bed to do it), gentle yoga, writing for the blog or something simple that I enjoy doing. I tell myself that as long as I do that one thing I can crawl back into bed if I still need to. So I have my day to mope about and feel sorry myself and I wake up the next day with a plan. It’s working so far. As soon as I do ten minutes of an activity that then spurs me on to try something else. I don’t notice at what point it happens but eventually that fatigue, headache and low mood i woke up with have disappeared. 

As I said, I am no expert on this subject so if anyone has any other tips on how to stay motivated on those bad days I’d love to hear them!! 

4 thoughts on “Motivation

  1. Oh my this really resonates with me. My husbands stroke was in 2016. I actually get annoyed with myself about why I cannot find any motivation. I don’t really relate it to the stroke (It’s me, it’s my fault) but some days find I’m too tired to be bothered doing anything, deciphering what he’s saying. It’s easier to sit in silence but that’s not fair on him!


    1. It’s so hard having conversations when you’re tired. I hate it. I used to come home from work and just want to curl up and watch TV – then feel guilty for not wanting to talk to him when he’s been alone all day.


  2. Motivation. People who know me and my weird wacky approach to life and work would perhaps not believe that in reality I am the biggest Robin Williams ever. At time I struggle to get out of bed. I deal with it by Allowing myself, as a luxury, not a capitulation, one duvet day. The next, I get up and do something decadent, unhealthy, something you shouldn’t do, as if to stick two fingers up to the black dog. Mine is a big nasty greasy breakfast. Then get on with things. That’s how I cope.

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  3. I wish I had words of wisdom but I’m afraid I don’t. Be kind to yourself and don’t expect too much, you’re going through a huge life change and you’re dealing with it as best you can. Some days it’s ok to just get back under that duvet x

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